Glimmers of Joy from Outagamie County Extension

From Karen Dickerell:

It's Glimmers of Joy for September 2021!

Self-Compassion:  Lessons Learned in Life

I just spent twenty minutes looking for a computer file that I was convinced was supposed to be where I was looking.  I started to blame the computer upgrade, the storm we had earlier today and yes, even my jump drive. I then jumped to thinking about the files I had cleaned out last week...did I delete this important information???  I was frazzled to say the least.

I stepped away from my desk, took a little walk and realized I had been looking for the file in all the wrong places because the file had a different name than what I was looking for.  How do you spell relief?!

Now I could sit here and down grade myself and tell myself how stupid can you be?  But where does that get me?  Yes, I was in a little bit of a panic, because since the Pandemic, I've been relying on the technology more and printed copies of "stuff" less.  Recreating this file would take lots of time, time I didn't have right now.  

Stepping away from the "crisis" and moving around, getting a change of scenery and new perspective helped!  Walking back into the office I realized my mistake and sure enough -- I found the file in all the places I thought it was.
What does this have to do with self-compassion?  I think it is a real- life example of what happens to many of us every day.  Self-Compassion means "being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail or feel inadequate, rather than flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.

According to Dr. Kristin Neff, there are three components to self-compassion. They are: Self-kindness, Common Humanity and Mindfulness.  I will explain these concepts briefly in the video below.
As a result -- take some time to recognize the benefits of self-compassion during the month of September.

1) Forgive yourself and get back on track to reach your goals.
2) Set the stage for better health, relationships, and general well-being.
3) Seek greater wisdom and emotional intelligence
4) Deal with stress and other difficulties
5) Recognize feelings of social connection and life satisfaction
6) Seek out happiness, optimism, curiosity, and positive attitudes
7)Be ready to learn and grow
8)Become less attached to controlling and verbally or being physically aggressive

Check out resources on Self-Compassion...There is a growing number of researchers that are working on self-compassion as we live through difficult times.

Read a book, perhaps seek out a group of people that you could safely meet with and discuss what you read.  

I reached out to author and researcher,  Dr. Kristen Neff and asked her if she had any discussion questions for the recent book she wrote, "Fierce Self-Compassion".  Her assistant, Amy Noelle sent the follow as possible discussion questions:

What point of view is the book written from?
What form does the author use to  deliver the content? (is is narrative, practice, research)
Is the book appropriate for all audiences?
Would you recommend the book?
How did the book make you feel?
What did you learn from reading the book?

These questions could all be adapted for almost any book you select!  You could even add a "joy" question -- like "Did you see any glimmers of joy in the book as you read it?"

I taped my video message and then realized after the fact, that I wished everyone a great August!  What I really meant was have a great September...we'll see if you catch it.  Forgive yourself and move forward.
Karen Dickrell

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