It's Glimmers of Joy for September 2021!
Self-Compassion: Lessons Learned in Life
I just spent twenty minutes looking for a computer file that I was convinced was supposed to be where I was looking. I started to blame the computer upgrade, the storm we had earlier today and yes, even my jump drive. I then jumped to thinking about the files I had cleaned out last week...did I delete this important information??? I was frazzled to say the least.
I stepped away from my desk, took a little walk and realized I had been looking for the file in all the wrong places because the file had a different name than what I was looking for. How do you spell relief?!
Now I could sit here and down grade myself and tell myself how stupid can you be? But where does that get me? Yes, I was in a little bit of a panic, because since the Pandemic, I've been relying on the technology more and printed copies of "stuff" less. Recreating this file would take lots of time, time I didn't have right now.
Stepping away from the "crisis" and moving around, getting a change of scenery and new perspective helped! Walking back into the office I realized my mistake and sure enough -- I found the file in all the places I thought it was.
What does this have to do with self-compassion? I think it is a real- life example of what happens to many of us every day. Self-Compassion means "being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail or feel inadequate, rather than flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.
According to Dr. Kristin Neff, there are three components to self-compassion. They are: Self-kindness, Common Humanity and Mindfulness. I will explain these concepts briefly in the video below.